Tag Archives: quarter life

Friday Wrap-up: The Unplugged Edition

19 Mar

March 20th is a pretty exciting day for me. It’s the first day of Spring – yay! My mum’s birthday – Happy Birthday Mum! and it’s also been declared National Day of Unplugging.  All of this technology is a blessing and a curse. We’re more connected than ever before but at what cost? Today’s Friday Wrap-up is dedicated to unplugging for a bit and reconnecting with the world around you.

How To Escape The Cubicle in Your Pocket – The title says it all. The author also has two great unplugging rules that I’m going to adopt for myself

A New (Old) Way to Create Calm in Your World – This post is all about instilling a Sabbath into your week. It’s an important concept whether you are religious or not

Help! Twitter is Ruining My Life – I’m sure a lot of you can identify with the cycle of tweet, refresh, tweet, facebook, check email, refresh twitter….

New Ways to Make A Difference – Different ways you can do your part to help out causes. This can give you something to do with all that free time you’ll have when you’re unplugged.

Have a lovely, unplugged weekend!

Until Next Time,

Nailah

On Dealing With Rejection

16 Mar

A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success. -Bo Bennett

Whether it’s at work or in your personal life, getting rejected sucks. No one likes to see their brilliant idea shot down or their proposal rejected or to just be flat out told ‘No.’ It blows. But there is also a lot to be learned from disappointment. And the sooner you’re able to pick yourself up after a set-back, the sooner you’ll be on your way to chasing down a new opportunity. Here are a few tips on dealing with disappointment.

  1. Pout – You’ve just experienced some sort of set-back and it stinks. Take the time to wallow in self-pity a bit. Vent to your trusted friends, whine a bit about how unfair it is, get all of those “why me” feelings out of your system. But for just ONE day. You’re allowed to sulk and pout for one day (at most), after that move on.
  2. Reflect – Once your day o’ pity is over, start thinking about why you were rejected. Look at it from the rejector’s point of view. What could you have done to make your proposal/idea/interview better? Learn from your missteps and correct them for the future
  3. Look For New Opportunities – We all know the saying that when one door shuts, another window opens. Look for your window. Where’s your next opportunity. Is your open window not visible? What do you need to do to pry it open?
  4. Don’t Take it To Heart – We’ll all face disappointment sometime in our lives. Don’t let it get to you by taking it personally. Once you reflect on the situation and put it all in perspective you’ll probably realize that the rejection will help you in some way or form.

Getting rejected is never fun, but it happens to the best of us. In fact, being able to properly deal with disappointment is what will help you be the best. Overall remember to maintain a positive attitude and never let a tiny little set-back take you off course from your goals.

How do you bounce back from rejection?

Until Next Time,

Nailah

Friday Wrap-up: The Who Am I Edition

12 Mar

Happy Friday Everyone! I hope you’ve all had an excellent week and are ready for the weekend. I’ve been thinking a lot about self-exploration lately and apparently so has a number of other people in the blogosphere. Here are my top links of the week dedicated to exploring your identity.

How to Reclaim Your Muchness – I love this post. Basically, we all  lose a little bit of ourselves as we grow older. This post has great tips for reclaiming those lost parts of your self. Plus it all came about from Alice in Wonderland and who doesn’t love Alice?

An Interview With Yourself – Important questions to ask yourself as you evaluate where you are and where you’re heading.

Can You Point to a Time When You Felt Pure Joy? – A great post about pin-pointing what really sets your world on fire.

Come out, Come out, Whoever you are! –  Looking at learning to be authentically you and harnessing your uniqueness for your benefit

11 Tips For Boosting Your Sense of Quiet Focus – Being the scatter-brain that I am, I welcome any tips that will help me quiet my self and become a little bit more present. These tips can come in handy as you clear a quiet space to think about yourself.

Have a Beautiful Weekend!

Nailah

Live in the Present & Enjoy Some Wasted Time

9 Mar

The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it. -Jim Goodwin

I’ve been running myself ragged lately and it finally caught up with me this past weekend. I went into the weekend with a hefty to-do list. I was ready to tackle all of my tasks and vigorously cross each one off my list. But when I woke up on Saturday, I could not seem to get myself going. I lounged lazily around my living room trying to force myself to get going on my to-do’s until finally I gave up and started reading a book I’d been meaning to start. I’ll just read for an hour and then I’ll get back to being productive, I told myself. Fast forward to Sunday afternoon and I had spent the majority of the weekend reading (I finished one book and had made a solid dent in a second). I’d crossed nothing off my list and I felt seriously guilty for wasting my weekend. Until I came across a great quote on Yes and Yes blog:

The time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.

It’s so easy to fall into a whirlwind of a schedule. Telling yourself that it’s ok because it’s “good to be busy.” But when we start focusing on just getting things done, we lose focus on what’s really important. We lose sight of the simple pleasures in life. It’s important to slow down and recommit to what is truly important to you. What have you been sacrificing to live at a frantic pace? Take a deep breath, slow your pace and enjoy some “wasted” time.

What’s your favorite way to waste time?

Until Next Time,

Nailah

How to Combat Your Fears

4 Mar

“The key to change… is to let go of fear.” –Roseanne Cash

I’m not a big fan of flying. Actually, I’ll be specific, I hate take-offs. In recent years, I’ve become so anxious about take-offs that I become quiet and skittish hours before a flight. If I have an early morning flight, I have trouble sleeping. If I have a flight in the evening, I can’t concentrate on simple tasks during the day. My fear of flying (or take-offs) is just like any other irrational fear, it’s been put in place as a protective mechanism of some sort. My sub-conscious reasons that by pumping out anxiety about take-offs, I’d probably hesitate to travel, keeping me safe and sound on the ground. But if I had listened to my sub-conscious I would have missed countless Christmases, weddings, adventures and graduations. Basically I would have missed out on life. While fears are often put in place to protect us in some way, it’s important that we figure out ways to confront the fear and move past it, if not we run the risk on missing out on life. Here are four tips for tackling your fears – whether they are big or small.

  1. Identify your fear – in order to properly confront a fear, you have to first understand what it is and why it’s there. Do you constantly doubt your talents and feel you’re not good enough? Your fear of taking risks may be protecting you from rejection and failure. By not trying, you’ll never get rejected, right?
  2. Prepare for the fear – a large part of my uneasiness about take-offs is the loss of control I feel. In order to combat this I prepare to the best of my abilities. I make sure I have my iPod and my books and my stuffed hippo, Tubbo (more on him later) ready to go. If you’re afraid of public speaking, make sure that you practice your speech and are prepared to field whatever questions may arise. Preparation takes away a lot of uncertainty and may ease some of your nerves.
  3. Be realistic about your fear – I know that the odds of getting into a car accident are far greater than those of being in a plane crash. Ask yourself “what’s the worst that can happen?’ Usually, it’s nothing you can’t handle. If it helps think of the worst thing that can happen and then prepare for that. Now you have no real reason for the fear.
  4. Comfort yourself about your fear – I travel with a stuffed hippo named Tubbo that I literally squeeze the stuffing out of during take-offs. It’s silly but it really helps in calming me down if my nerves get too frazzled. Learn how to soothe yourself when confronted with your fear. The sooner you learn to comfort yourself, the sooner you can move past the fear and start living life.

We all have fears so remember to be compassionate with yourself about your own. And like with anything, practice makes perfect. So practice confronting your fear. The more you stare your fear in the eye, the less scary it becomes.

I’m actually practicing confronting my own fear right now – I’m typing this post from 30,000 feet up as Tubbo rests peacefully in my lap.

Do you have any irrational fears? How do you practice moving past them?

Until Next Time,

Nailah

Overcome Burn-out and Stay Motivated

2 Mar


“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” -Wayne Dyer

One of the things I enjoy most about being a life coach is helping others outline their goals and then watching as they achieve them. There’s no better feeling than setting out to accomplish something and then actually accomplishing it.  Earlier in the year I shared my goal setting process with you so I just wanted to check in and see how you’re doing with your own goals. It’s March 1st, which means that 1/3 of our year has already gone by. I’m not telling you this to set you into a frenzy. There’s still plenty of time left to keep working on the goals you’ve set for yourself and make 2010 rock your socks.  If you’re truckin’ along, Great – That’s Awesome! But maybe you’re feeling a little stuck. It can be hard to stay motivated and not get burned out. Here are a few tips to keep in mind when you’re trying to achieve big goals.

  1. Create & Track Milestones –  Working towards a large goal can be overwhelming and it can be easy to get frustrated and give up when you don’t think you’re moving the needle. Acknowledge when you make it to smaller milestones. If there aren’t any small milestones – make them up. If one of your goals is to run a marathon, start keeping track of when you successfully complete each mile.  Running 1 more mile each week sounds a lot more manageable than running 26.2 miles.
  2. Stay Focused on Your Compelling Vision – It’s a lot easier to tackle tough goals if you know it all fits into your overarching compelling vision. What’s your big “why?” Losing 20 pounds doesn’t sound like fun but if you know that losing 20 pounds fits into your long term compelling vision of being healthy and feeling great about yourself, it makes it a bit easier.
  3. Be Realistic – Make sure that your ultimate goal is realistic. Maybe the reason you are facing burn-out is because you are trying to achieve the impossible. Make sure you’ve set appropriate timelines for yourself.  Setting a way too aggressive goal for yourself does nothing but bring disappointment.
  4. Give Yourself a Break – We’ve all done it – We set a goal up for ourselves that we’re so excited about, we never want to stop working on it. Make sure that you take a break from what you’re working on. Taking a step back from your project or goal from time to time will help you re-energize and you’ll feel much more refreshed when you pick it back up again.
  5. Get A Buddy – If you are repeatedly getting stuck, reach out to others who may be working on similar goals. Creating an accountability group can help get you through you’re burn-out phase. It’ll also give you the added bonus of having a built-in cheering section.

Ultimately, when you’re feeling a bit unmotivated you just need to learn to power through. I’m hoping the above tips can help you get going again.

Feel free to let me know what you’re working on and what you’ve accomplished in the comments section. I promise that this will be a safe place for you to brag about all that you’ve achieved so far!

Until Next Time,

Nailah

Need some more help getting motivated? Here’s some additional reading on Goal-Setting, Procrastination, and Setting The Bar Too High

Friday Wrap-Up: The Self-Love & Productivity Edition

26 Feb

Hello,  Hello! I hope everyone’s week has been phenomenal and filled with beautiful experiences. Here’s a little link love to round out your Friday afternoon.

Kill Busywork: The One Skill To Focus On What Matters – Is your life filled with busywork? Learn how to nip that unproductive time in a bud.

Finish The Projects You Started – Do you have endless mounds of unfinished projects. Gretchen Rubin offers her advice on tying up those loose ends.

Link Love: 50 Articles You Should Read Right Now – Holy Moly – this is Link Lov-a-palooza! There’s enough articles here to keep you busy for awhile. They’re all focused on positivity and living a better life. Loves it!

How to be Unremarkably Average – Basic tips to living a risk-free, unremarkable and average life.  I loved this post as it uses humor to show how easy it is to just fall into a pattern of mediocrity.

Social Media Hierarchy – Funny breakdown of how the various social media tools rank in dating terms!

The One Deadly Sin of Changing a Habit – This post helped me get motivated when I didn’t want to do my run earlier this week.

100 Ways You Can Start Loving Yourself Right Now – A list of simple (and fun!) ways to start loving numero uno.

Have a beautiful weekend, peeps. I’ll see you on Monday!

Until Next Time,

Nailah