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On Dealing With Rejection

16 Mar

A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success. -Bo Bennett

Whether it’s at work or in your personal life, getting rejected sucks. No one likes to see their brilliant idea shot down or their proposal rejected or to just be flat out told ‘No.’ It blows. But there is also a lot to be learned from disappointment. And the sooner you’re able to pick yourself up after a set-back, the sooner you’ll be on your way to chasing down a new opportunity. Here are a few tips on dealing with disappointment.

  1. Pout – You’ve just experienced some sort of set-back and it stinks. Take the time to wallow in self-pity a bit. Vent to your trusted friends, whine a bit about how unfair it is, get all of those “why me” feelings out of your system. But for just ONE day. You’re allowed to sulk and pout for one day (at most), after that move on.
  2. Reflect – Once your day o’ pity is over, start thinking about why you were rejected. Look at it from the rejector’s point of view. What could you have done to make your proposal/idea/interview better? Learn from your missteps and correct them for the future
  3. Look For New Opportunities – We all know the saying that when one door shuts, another window opens. Look for your window. Where’s your next opportunity. Is your open window not visible? What do you need to do to pry it open?
  4. Don’t Take it To Heart – We’ll all face disappointment sometime in our lives. Don’t let it get to you by taking it personally. Once you reflect on the situation and put it all in perspective you’ll probably realize that the rejection will help you in some way or form.

Getting rejected is never fun, but it happens to the best of us. In fact, being able to properly deal with disappointment is what will help you be the best. Overall remember to maintain a positive attitude and never let a tiny little set-back take you off course from your goals.

How do you bounce back from rejection?

Until Next Time,



How To Make The Best of Job You Can’t Stand

22 Feb

When people go to work, they shouldn’t have to leave their hearts at home. ~Betty Bender

There’s nothing worse than waking up every day and dragging yourself to a job you despise. But sometimes quitting isn’t an immediate option so we just have to suck it up and endure. Enjoying a crappy job (or any crappy situation for that matter) can be as easy as changing your perspective. Here are a few tips to learning to love (like? tolerate?) a not so fun job.

  1. Change your perspective – It sounds cliché but having a negative attitude about something completely sets the tone for your entire experience. Set an intention to be happy every morning. It’ll be easier to let crummy situations roll off your back if you are in a genuine good mood.
  2. Learn all that you can – I once worked for a corporation that was really poorly managed. Instead of letting it frustrate me I focused on what skill sets I could develop and what I could learn from that specific industry. Additionally, once it was time for me to launch my own business I knew exactly what not to do. Every situation has something to offer you, make sure you take advantage of all it has to offer.
  3. Focus on what you do enjoy – There’s usually some task or aspect of a job that you truly do enjoy. Focus on that. Is there a way you can make that a bigger part of your responsibilities? Try and schedule the enjoyable aspect into every day. At least then when you are working on the boring tasks you can know that the fulfilling task is on its way.
  4. Bring your passions to work – Sometimes you are able to bring an outside passion into you work life. Are you passionate about women in business? Maybe you can start a Women’s Leadership Group at work. Do you enjoy organizing events? Perhaps you can begin organizing the office birthday parties.
  5. Be positive – Start focusing on what is good about your job instead of the bad. Again, reframing how you think about your work situation will do wonders in how you actually feel about it.

Now I’m in no way advocating you stay in a miserable situation forever but these tips can definitely make your job more bearable as you figure out where you’d like to transition

What do you think? How have you coped with a bad work situation in the past?

Until Next Time,


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