On Dealing With Rejection

16 Mar

A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success. -Bo Bennett

Whether it’s at work or in your personal life, getting rejected sucks. No one likes to see their brilliant idea shot down or their proposal rejected or to just be flat out told ‘No.’ It blows. But there is also a lot to be learned from disappointment. And the sooner you’re able to pick yourself up after a set-back, the sooner you’ll be on your way to chasing down a new opportunity. Here are a few tips on dealing with disappointment.

  1. Pout – You’ve just experienced some sort of set-back and it stinks. Take the time to wallow in self-pity a bit. Vent to your trusted friends, whine a bit about how unfair it is, get all of those “why me” feelings out of your system. But for just ONE day. You’re allowed to sulk and pout for one day (at most), after that move on.
  2. Reflect – Once your day o’ pity is over, start thinking about why you were rejected. Look at it from the rejector’s point of view. What could you have done to make your proposal/idea/interview better? Learn from your missteps and correct them for the future
  3. Look For New Opportunities – We all know the saying that when one door shuts, another window opens. Look for your window. Where’s your next opportunity. Is your open window not visible? What do you need to do to pry it open?
  4. Don’t Take it To Heart – We’ll all face disappointment sometime in our lives. Don’t let it get to you by taking it personally. Once you reflect on the situation and put it all in perspective you’ll probably realize that the rejection will help you in some way or form.

Getting rejected is never fun, but it happens to the best of us. In fact, being able to properly deal with disappointment is what will help you be the best. Overall remember to maintain a positive attitude and never let a tiny little set-back take you off course from your goals.

How do you bounce back from rejection?

Until Next Time,



2 Responses to “On Dealing With Rejection”

  1. Heather Rae March 19, 2010 at 6:15 am #

    I like this post, Nailah. Lately, I’ve been trying to look at rejection and failure as an indication that ‘at least I tried’. I figure I would rather try and not be successful than not try and wonder ‘what if?’. I really like this quote by Michael Jordan as a reminder, "I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

  2. Nailah March 20, 2010 at 1:49 am #

    Heather, that’s a great quote and it’s so true. It takes thousands of little failures to add up to one big successNailah

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